Sorry, it is a word that sounds familiar for everyone of us. It is commonly said when someone is making a mistake or heard a bad news. For example, when i am walking down the street and accidentally bump into somebody then i would say “sorry”. Another thing, when you are having some conversation with your friend. Talking about things happened around you, starting or left some topics, when suddenly your friend states something terrible something bad happened on his/ her relatives or maybe himself/herself, then you might want to say sorry.
When the word “sorry” went out, do you really intend saying it? Or rather it is just for a relieve of your bad feelings? In my opinion, saying sorry is not that simple. When somebody had said it, not just the state of mind that decided to have the word uttered, but also followed by the behavior of the person. In other words, you really mean it and regret deeply. For example, you had damaged your parent’s car, accidentally hit a neighbour’s house fence and it simply happened because of your clumsy driving while texting your friend through a mobile phone. You went home, explain the incident happened to your parents, and thus you might need to say “i am sorry”. But is it really end that way only?
No! As i have stated “sorry” is not just about the utterance of the word itself. It is something that should be followed up by your behavior changed of the similar cases later on. You might not having yourself better if you do not really regret what you have done, knowing the consequences. Because, later on you could be doing the same mistakes over and over again. In this case, you might simply say sorry just to show you regret towards your parents, and then at another day someone might find you driving while texting again.
What you really need to keep in mind is do you really mean it. Some people might get their feelings hurt if they know that you are saying sorry just to ease them. Again, some people may think that saying sorry is not enough. You need to do something as for the “damage”. For this reason, civil court tend to be chosen as the best way to settle something that cannot be “fixed” by simply saying “sorry”. There would be punishment and fines, which i would say, to really make the person accused regret about what he/ she did and not having it again on another circumstances.
Anyway, the word sorry is surely something nobble in my opinion, making an apologize is better than accepting one. So the next time you did something awful, be sure to really regret it and promise yourself not doing it anymore before saying that you are sorry.